New Year’s resolutions are overrated. Real change happens every day. Let’s focus on feeling better, being present, and enjoying the ride instead of stressing the results. Less resolutions, more realness.

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It’s almost the new year, which means we all suddenly decide who we’re going to become.
We make vision boards. We set goals that would require a personality transplant. We swear that this year will be different.

And then January 20th hits.

Life keeps lifing. Work emails don’t stop. Bodies don’t magically reset. Motivation dips. And before we know it, we’re back to being the same person we were ten days ago…except now with guilt sprinkled on top.

I do this too. I set outrageous goals and convince myself that January 1st will be the day I completely transform. Maybe I make it to January 20th. Maybe. Then real life hits me. Again, and again, and again.

So this year, we’re not doing that.

This year isn’t about becoming a whole new person overnight. It’s about becoming more connected to who we already are—slowly, realistically, and without the all-or-nothing spiral.

Instead of timelines and pressure and dramatic reinventions, I’m setting goals without deadlines. Some will be light and fun. Some will require discomfort (because growth does). But none of them start on January 1st with a clean slate fantasy… especially when it comes to food, health, or appearance. We’ll get to that later.

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This Year, I’m Setting Goals Around Feelings, Not Results

Because here’s the thing: I’ve always set goals around outcomes. And when I don’t hit those outcomes, I don’t just “miss a goal”—I spiral. I fail. I internalize it.

So we’re changing the framework.

Instead of:

• I want to get better at yoga → I want to feel more flexible
• I want abs → I want to feel strong
• I want to travel more → I want to feel culturally aware and connected
• I want to get better at knitting → I want to feel creative and artistically challenged
• I want to drink less coffee → I want to feel more supported by my natural energy
• I want clear skin → I want to understand what my body is asking for and respond consistently
• I want to grow my private practice → I want to help more women reconnect with themselves and feel supported

See the shift?

Less external validation. More internal alignment. That’s where real change actually happens.

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So Here’s What I’m Leaning Into This Year:

1. More creativity
I picked up knitting recently and I’m obsessed. This year I want to learn how to sew, maybe paint again, and I’ve alwayswanted to take a stained glass class—so I’m adding that to the list. Creativity doesn’t need to be productive. It needs to be expressed.

2. More risk
I want to say yes more. Take chances. Go after the jobs I actually want. Email CEOs if I have to. Stop waiting until I feel “ready.” Be a little delusional. Say “fuck it” with intention.

3. More gratitude
Last year was weird. I graduated, had no real plan, and felt like nothing was happening—while everything was happening all at once. I didn’t pause enough to appreciate it. In 2023, I used to write down three things I was grateful for before bed. We’re bringing that back.

4. Fewer expectations, more presence
I’m someone who needs to be 25 steps ahead or I feel behind. And while ambition is cute, it’s not helpful when it steals your ability to be present. This year, I’m lowering the expectations and raising the awareness. One day at a time.

5. Slower, more intentional nourishment
I love to cook. So instead of rules or restrictions, my goal is simple: try three new recipes a month. Not a week. A month. Build a solid base. Enjoy the process. Let food be supportive—not performative.

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And Here’s The Part I Really Want You To Hear:

Stop setting goals around appearances. We’ve already distorted those enough.

The other day, I casually described my life to someone I just met. They told me it sounded amazing—something they were jealous of. An hour earlier, I was in my room crying because I didn’t know what I was doing with my life. I felt all over the place. It wasn’t what I thought it was going to be. I was spiraling.

So before you decide your life isn’t enough, pause. Work inward before you work outward. The outward will always follow.

Because women are most powerful when their hearts and souls are on fire.
That’s when you become magnetic.
That’s when you become confident.
That’s when you become the most attractive version of yourself—without trying to be.

Where the feminine flows, wellness grows….

It’s not about making 2026 your year. It’s about making yourself, day by day.

xoxo, Olivia Jade